We planned to meet up with Bmom at her doctors appointment on Thursday. We were not sure where the office was so we left early and arrived in plenty of time. I was not as nervous to see her like I was on Tuesday but was more worried about what we would talk about while waiting without the case worker helping to lead the conversation.
Matt and I walked into the building and asked at the desk where we should go. We were directed up to the second floor and down the hall. We were pretty much the only caucasian people in the building so I felt a little out of place. We got several looks and second glances from people in the waiting area.
The place was super busy and we found a couple of free chairs open in front of the elevator. This was good because then we would be able to see her as she arrives. After only a few minutes of waiting, we heard familiar voices over the balcony above us from 3 floor. Bmom had brought her friend along again as well as her son. We think she told us it would just be her so we were surprised to see these two again.
We waived to them as they glanced over and smiled at us. As they stepped off the elevator, her son recognized us right away and came right over. She told us she was just going to go check in and I asked her if she wanted us to wait here or go. She said I could come with her. Matt stayed back with the two others and I waited in line with her. I felt very awkward while standing there. I was assuming that everyone was watching us and thinking of me as a bad person who wanted to take her baby.
Once checked in, we waited with boys and she got a bag of hot wheels cars out for her son to play. Matt and him pushed the cars back and forth. I tried to make some small talk and keep things light. I asked if they had any dogs or pets...she said her son likes them but they don't have any. I asked her how long it took her to get there and told her how long it took us to get there. She answered all the questions pleasantly but did not ever ask or tell us anything on her own.
They called us back after just a few minutes of waiting and as we stood to go in Matt wasn't sure if she wanted him to go with or not. She said she did away the three of us went to the back. Once again, very awkward for me as we followed her in. I feel like it was obvious that the white couple following her were adoptive parents. She never gave me any signs that she was uncomfortable or feeling awkward however.
The nurse took her vitals and told us that they would be doing a breast exam etc. We stepped out of the room and told her to let us know when to come back in. As we waited, the dr. came and went into the room. We waited patiently to be called back in.
As the doctor opened the door, she said she could recognize us by our big smiles. She told us that bmom was measuring exactly where she should be and that we were going to listen to the heartbeat. She asked if we were there for ultrasound last week and when we told her no, doctor seemed excited that this would be our first time to hear the heart beat.
From what I remember from B, the heartbeat sounded fast, strong, and normal. It was such a sweet sound to hear. The room was so crowded- there was not room for me to stand on the side of the table by bmom so I was standing at her feet and Matt was behind me. Matt and I held hands behind my back and I but my other hand on bmom's shoes as we listened.
I asked the doctor (actually a nurse practitioner) about a more precise due date, and she said that she didn't have the ultrasound report in the file (but would for next week) so she is still estimating around 31 weeks and looking at end of May / early June.
As we left the visit, we walked down to the first floor together. One of my favorite parts was when bmom told her son that it was time to go, he was having fun and didn't want to leave. I called him by name and put my hand out and said "let's go" and he smiled and came right over and grabbed my hand. This made bmom smile that he came to me and I thought I was pretty special to have him do that. It made my day when he did that.
As we prepared to leave, I asked her about meeting on Sunday which we had briefly discussed Tuesday at the agency. She told us that she now has Sundays off- this made me so happy because she has been working 7 days a week 4- midnight. We arranged to meet Sunday at 3 at a local McD play land. This way our 2 boys can play and she gets to meet B as well.
* She did not get her glucose screen done on Wednesday like we had thought she was getting. She will get this done next Thursday at her next appointment. We are looking forward to going again as well. This will take a few hours for the test, so I am a bit nervous about filing the time with topics to discuss for that length of time. I am wondering how everyone else has gotten to know their bmom's. I know it will just take time, but I would welcome any tips.